Introduction

When cellphones were still primarily used for calls, The Art of Manliness published a series of posters on digital etiquette. Thirteen years later, our relationship with technology has shifted dramatically—texting has replaced talking, and our pockets hold devices far more powerful than the computers that guided Apollo 11. Yet our collective rules for using that power haven't kept up. This post outlines 26 new rules of digital etiquette designed for today's always-connected world, grouped around three simple principles: be considerate, be discreet, and be present.

What Happened

The original 2013 poster series targeted era-specific annoyances like loud ringtones and taking calls in quiet spaces. Today, the landscape has changed: we scroll through reels in gyms, join group chats we never asked for, and outsource emotional labor to AI. The need for intentional tech use is greater than ever, because the cost of poor digital manners falls on the people around us.

Why This Matters

Digital etiquette isn't about being rigid—it's about recognizing that every notification, video, or forwarded meme imposes an invisible cost on others. When we phub, post private screenshots, or film people in vulnerable moments, we erode trust and dignity. The rules below help ensure your tech use enhances rather than diminishes the people in your physical and digital circles.

Key Takeaways

  • Use headphones in public; keep audio private and avoid disturbing others.
  • Avoid phubbing: give people your full attention when interacting in person.
  • Think before you film: never record someone in a bathroom, locker room, or at their worst moment.
  • Respect group chat boundaries; never add people without their consent.
  • Don't expect instant replies, and don't ghost forever—respond within a day or communicate a delay.
  • Keep event videos brief; lower your phone so others can see the stage or performance.
  • Apply the three principles: be considerate, be discreet, be present.

Conclusion

From phubbing to AI-generated condolences, the way we use technology reflects our respect for others. By following the three overarching principles—be considerate, be discreet, be present—you can navigate digital spaces with confidence and class. The specific rules matter, but the mindset behind them is what truly keeps our connections human.